pointers about relaying the sad facts of a loss.

• Pronouncements concerning loss should be given more tact, more care and even empathy, aside from the given sympathy to the person being told. The measure of comfortability should also be of an importance, if possible, the person should be sitting and go the extra mile to have a glass of water ready and within reach. Being sensitive is a rule of thumb always.
• One should also take into consideration the time when the pronouncement would be made, do a little research as to what hour the person usually starts his/her day. This would be the period when a normal person is on a natural high therefore usually tense in some level or another.
• Afternoons are considered the best time for relaying the sad information as the body generally is more sedate during this hours. It is absolutely and never advisable to wake the person (or upon waking) and tell him/her the news immediately, or upon as there may be danger of hysterics that may result to shock or temporary catatonia.
• Evenings are okay but let us draw the line beyond 10:00 pm.
• Tone of voice and how we say the news should also be taken into account. It is sensible if it be delivered without a hint of excitement, or without too much dour sadness that it might give off the wrong signals.
• It is entirely possible to say it; through context clues and body language, so that the person can infer the right conclusion even before you have finished. This makes it easier on both parties since this means that you have successfully prepared him/her for the truth. You may leave as discreetly as possible after this. The person concerned may show his/her emotions by crying immediately but always in control, take this as a good sign. If said person makes known his/her gratefulness by saying thank you then it is a job well done.
• Hysterics definitely cannot be left discreetly or by themselves. If this situation is foreseen it is always prudent to bring someone else that the person is comfortable with and let that him/her tell the news themselves.
• Now, there are always instances where one cannot tell the news personally and one has to resort to some other means. First choice would be through a phonecall, a choice which if the above advice was followed can also be appropriate enough since this doesn't necessitate an encounter.
• But unfortunately, the first choice is also the only alternative, if one takes into importance the person the news is for.
• E-mails are definitely harsh, moreso if sent through text. That is almost indifferent to the point of cruelty.
  
  

Apparently, you haven't read these pointers. No, not at all, apparently.

Telling me that I'm about to die emotionally through text isn't really beautiful.